We're leaving! Finally after a month of living in New Delhi, we will be on our way home tomorrow. We will both miss it, though Saffron has not expressed her opinion on the matter. Today we will say our goodbyes to all our newfound friends, do some last minute shopping, and pack, pack, pack!
Yesterday was our adventure to FRRO (Foreign Region Registration Office), the most pointless part of this entire process. You see, once your child is declared a U.S. citizen (or whatever country you're from) you need to get an exit visa in order to leave. Yes, the child who has no claim of citizenship in the country he/she was born in has to get permission to go home. And let me tell you (and I've already made a joke about the department of motor vehicles here before), this place makes the busiest day at a crowded L.A. county DMV look like a day at a library! There is no order or efficiency. They have computers, but don't seem to utilize them to their advantage. It's almost as if they are purposely making their job more difficult and then bitching about it being so hard.
|Excited to go home!|
Earlier in the week, we met our surrogate for the first time. It was a very emotional and personal experience that I will never forget. We've shared some very personal things on this blog, but I this is one moment that I think we'll keep to ourselves. But for those of you going through the process, I recommend it - but let it be on her terms. It may be too emotional for her and she may want to forget it and move on. I will say that it brought closure to us and I hope for her as well.
|Photo courtesy of Randy Schmidt (thank you!)|
Lastly, we were one of a few couples that did a television interview with CBS regarding medical tourism in India, emphasizing on surrogacy. We had to think really hard before doing this: 1) because it will air nationally, privacy was our main concern (despite having a blog seen around the globe, there are varying degrees of anonymity); 2) we didn't know what angle the interview would take (would we be demonized and put in a negative light?); and 3) I hate seeing and hearing myself on video. Then we thought about the positives - and if we can help people realize their dream of having a child, it would be worth it. People will see this interview once and never again. We said to each other that if either of us felt uncomfortable during the interview, we would walk. Plus, we thought Dr. Shivani wouldn't have let them in the door had they been there to exploit anyone. The CBS crew ended up being amazing and I wish them the best of luck on the feature. They were very cool to hang out with and their photographer, Randy Schmidt, was kind enough to take some photos of us. I was very impressed that they made no mention that we were a same-sex couple or that it was even an issue. I hope the televised version still treats that aspect as a non-issue. That's all for now - more when we're stateside!